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在 2000 年接受奥普拉·温弗瑞 (Oprah Winfrey) 采访时,玛莎·斯图尔特 (Martha Stewart) 将自己描述为“疯狂的完美主义者”。你还记得玛莎·斯图尔特,对吧?一位职业生涯跨越六十年的女性。一位女士将康涅狄格州的一家餐饮企业变成了一家价值十亿美元的公司。他与众多著名人物建立了引人注目的友谊:唐纳德·特朗普、贾斯汀·比伯、史努比狗狗。最近,一位八十多岁的女性担任《体育画报》2023 年泳装特刊的封面女郎。
Martha Stewart is known for her perfectionism, which she credits with her success. But perfectionism can also have a downside, leading to task paralysis. This is an inability to complete tasks due to anxiety or fear of failure. People with task paralysis may hang back from doing things or avoid tackling items on their to-do list because they don’t think they’ll be able to complete them according to the standards they have set for themselves. Or, they may feel that they lack motivation even to set those standards.
玛莎·斯图尔特以完美主义而闻名,她将自己的成功归功于这一点。但完美主义也有负面影响,导致任务瘫痪。这是由于焦虑或害怕失败而无法完成任务。患有任务瘫痪的人可能会犹豫不决,或者避免处理待办事项清单上的项目,因为他们认为自己无法按照为自己设定的标准完成任务。或者,他们可能觉得自己甚至缺乏制定这些标准的动力。
Psychologists have identified task paralysis as the downside of perfectionism. Rather than fueling our ambition and propelling us to succeed the way that Martha Stewart says perfectionism has done for her, perfectionism can sabotage us. It can cause us to avoid projects out of fear that we will disappoint ourselves. We will not live up to our perfectionistic dreams.
心理学家认为任务瘫痪是完美主义的缺点。完美主义不但不会像玛莎·斯图尔特所说的完美主义那样激发我们的雄心并推动我们取得成功,反而会破坏我们。它可能会导致我们因为担心会让自己失望而回避项目。我们不会实现完美主义的梦想。
Others suffer from task paralysis, too. It’s a thing. I’m a writer, and as a writer, I sometimes spend much of my time on a self-sabotaging pursuit called not-writing.
其他人也遭受任务瘫痪的困扰。这是一件事。我是一名作家,作为一名作家,我有时会花费大量时间进行自我破坏的追求,称为不写作。
My bouts of not-writing happen because I have an idea, an inspiration, a dream, a plan for a piece of writing, and I become convinced, down at the core of my writer self, that I will never be able to reproduce what’s in my mind on the page. I will fail. Disappoint myself. Prove myself a perpetual writer wannabe. Not a real writer.
我之所以不写作,是因为我有一个想法、一个灵感、一个梦想、一个写作计划,而我在作家自我的内心深处坚信,我永远无法复制我所写的东西。在我的脑海中的页面上。我会失败。让我自己失望了。证明自己是一个永远的作家崇拜者。不是一个真正的作家。
When I have these low-down, concrete-scraping interludes of not-writing, I ooze through my day, listless as an unloved slug.
当我有这些低下的、具体的、不写作的插曲时,我就度过了我的一天,无精打采,像一只不受欢迎的鼻涕虫。
But I’m a writer, so at times like this, I turn to one of my heroes. The veritable mother-goddess of the craft: Anne Lamott. I hang on to her words as if they were her private love letter to me.
但我是一名作家,所以在这种时候,我会转向我的英雄之一。名副其实的工艺女神:安妮·拉莫特 (Anne Lamott)。我牢牢记住她的话,就好像它们是她写给我的私人情书一样。
“Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor, the enemy of the people,” Lamott writes in her now classic book on writing, Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life.
“完美主义是压迫者的声音,是人民的敌人,”拉莫特在她现在的经典写作著作《逐只鸟:关于写作和生活的一些指导》中写道。
I imagine her shaking her finger at Martha Stewart as she says that.
我想象她说这句话时对玛莎·斯图尔特摇动手指。
I can hear her saying to Stewart, You are leading people right into the trap set by authoritarian parents, stern high school principals, and what some people believe is a judgmental, scorekeeping God. You are hurting people, Martha. Stop that.
我能听到她对斯图尔特说,你正在把人们带入由专制父母、严厉的高中校长以及一些人认为是审判性的、记分的上帝所设下的陷阱。你正在伤害别人,玛莎。别这样了。
Lamott describes perfectionism as something like muscle cramps. “They keep us moving in tight, worried ways. They keep us standing back and backing away from life, keep us from experiencing life in a naked and immediate way.”
拉莫特将完美主义描述为类似肌肉痉挛的东西。 “它们让我们以紧张、忧心忡忡的方式前进。它们让我们退缩,远离生活,让我们无法以赤裸裸、直接的方式体验生活。”
That’s exactly the way I would like my writing to be described. As a naked and immediate encounter with the world around me. Wouldn’t that be glorious? It’s what some of the greats such as Walt Whitman achieved in their writing. It’s what the best poets offer us, peeling off their skin and showing us their insides.
这正是我希望我的作品被描述的方式。作为与我周围世界的赤裸裸的直接接触。那不是很光荣吗?这就是沃尔特·惠特曼等一些伟人在写作中取得的成就。这就是最好的诗人为我们提供的,剥去他们的外皮,向我们展示他们的内心。
But with that goal hovering out there on my horizon, I feel my writing muscles tighten.
但随着这个目标在我的地平线上盘旋,我感觉我的写作肌肉收紧了。
Psychologist Parker Houston warns, “Trying to chase perfection is like sailing to reach the setting sun. You might feel that you can reach it one day, but it is always just beyond the horizon. Even the strongest wind in your sail would never cause you to reach it.”
心理学家帕克·休斯顿警告说:“试图追求完美就像航行到夕阳一样。你可能觉得有一天你可以达到它,但它总是在地平线之外。即使你的帆中最强的风也永远无法让你到达目的地。”
Among those like Martha Stewart whose success has been measured by their level of wealth and fame, Steve Jobs may be an example of perfectionism’s potential to paralyze rather than propel. While his high standards surely led to the extraordinary success of Apple, Jobs lamented that his perfectionism often slowed his progress. He learned to rein in his drive, a discipline that eventually led to Apple’s mass market presence.
在像玛莎·斯图尔特这样以财富和名誉水平来衡量成功的人中,史蒂夫·乔布斯可能是完美主义的一个例子,它可能会造成瘫痪而不是推动。虽然他的高标准无疑为苹果公司带来了非凡的成功,但乔布斯感叹他的完美主义常常减慢了他的进步。他学会了控制自己的动力,这种纪律最终使苹果公司在大众市场占据一席之地。
Perfectionism can be paralyzing. It can cause us to shy away from trying. It can lead us into a downward spiral of inactivity.
完美主义可能会让人瘫痪。它可能会导致我们回避尝试。它可能会导致我们陷入无所作为的恶性循环。
That’s what happens to me sometimes.
我有时也会遇到这种情况。
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